This is a self help book that has 26 different scenario’s, grouped into three categories: when it’s hard to be with other people, when it’s hard to be with yourself, and when it’s hard to be with your feelings.
One of the scenario’s was around being less akward around people. One piece of advice given is ‘as you enter interactions with people, spend less time worrying about what you might say and how to appear confident. Instead, make it your new mission to bring out those things in the people around you. In the moments that you would previously have worried about whether you fit in, turn your attention to making sure that the poeple around you feel welcome, feel interesting and a part of things’.
Some of the other quotes from Smith are:
It’s not that the socially confident have worked out how to prevent awkward moments. It’s more that they barely focus on them. Sometimes focusing only on what you are trying to avoid leads you striaght to it.
It is OK to fear someone else’s disapproval, but you must fear your own more.
Take command of who you are becoming. If you don’t like who you are today, your focus must be on who you intend to be tomorrow.
Keep your eyes on where you are going, not where you might have gone.
Commit to effort above all else as it is the one thing you can control.
How you respond to the worries of today lays down the template for how you can respond to the worries of tomorrow. The responses that come most naturally will be those you have actioned time and time again.
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